Here's why blame is the worst negative influence of all time
The fourth major causes of negative emotions according to Ouspensky and the trigger of anger, envy, resentment, jealousy, and frustration of any kind is blame.
It is blame especially that generates anger, the worst of all the negative emotions. Anger is the most destructive force in the human world.
Uncontrolled anger can destroy health, relationships, families, businesses, and societies and is the chief generation of wars, revolution, and social conflict.
The primary source of anger can be traced back to destructive criticism in early childhood. Whenever a person is criticized, he reacts exactly as he is being attacked, with defensiveness and resentment.
Since any behavior you repeat over and over becomes a habit, many people develop the habit of responding with anger to every problem, disappointment or frustration they experience.
Eventually, they reach the point when they are always angry about something. To become angry, a person must be able to blame someone for something that has happened or not happened that they don’t like or approve of.
Many people are preoccupied with blaming others that they lose contact with reality. They see the entire world through a lens of blame and its sister's emotion, guilt.
Whenever there’s a problem, personal or public, an angry person automatically concludes that there is someone to blame. The individual then spends his time and emotion apportioning blame among various parties.
This obsession with blame and anger, leading to resentment often consumes the person who experiences it.
The best way to eliminate anger of all kinds is to accept responsibility. The acceptance of responsibility immediately short circuits the emotion of anger.
As soon as you say “I am responsible”, your anger is cut off. Because of the fact that your mind can only hold one thought at a time, you cannot accept responsibility for your situation and be angry at the same time.
If you’re the type that is always blaming something or someone for your losses, accept the responsibility today and watch as the burden of anger and hate is lifted from your shoulders.